Because Blogger's "Adult warning" often goes into a perpetual loop (isn't working properly), I will be making all new posts at my WordPress blog. You can follow it even if you do not have a WordPress Account. There're also my Twitter and my Tumblr blog, my Facebook and my Google+ page and my group.
(Update: Blogger hasn't fixed its problem with the "adult warning". Will go back to posting at my WordPress blog)

Monday, December 8, 2014


For so long I've thought of myself as a gay man who happens to love a woman.  I thought, when I fell in love with my guy all those years ago, that, ergo, I was gay.  That's how it was: there were gays and there were straights and since I'd fallen in love with a man, and had sex with men, I had to go in the gay box.  But over the last few years I've realised that I am attracted to women as well as to men.  I'm not even sure any more whether I'm primarily attracted to men or to women.  I'm attracted to individuals.  To people.  And their gender isn't really relevant any more.

Of course society is still stuck with boxes: the gay box; the straight box; and even, dare we say it; the bisexual box.  But it's stupid.  These labels don't matter.

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