Impaled love

Love is so much more than just sex. The very best kind is where your cock is connected to your heart.  These guys may just be porn models, but you can see a genuine connection.  Friends with benefits, and more.

Many splendoured

These two blokes ("Brandon" & "Brent", from Sean Cody) are porn actors.  They fuck each other on camera.  One doubts that they are in fact actors, in the sense that they can convincingly portray an emotion they don't feel.  So their obvious affection for each other is likely real.  It's abundantly clear that they are very fond of each other. For all we know, they might be gay for pay.  I know so many stories of blokes who primarily identify as straight but are nevertheless capable of being very, very fond of another man, of finding him (and only him) sexy and attractive and fuckable.

 Love comes in so many forms.  We love our dog or cat, we "love" chocolates, we love our parents, our children, our friends, our lovers, our spouses, a favourite uncle or aunt or niece or nephew.

Yet, somehow, our culture still devalues sexual love, unless it's in a tightly contained context.  But the truth is that people who are not in love with each other can nevertheless love each other.  When they fuck, they are making love.  Even if they aren't "in love".

We spend a lot of time judging sex by its contexts (are they married? are they being unfaithful? are they ....?) when the really critical factor is love, in all its many splendoured glory.  If you truly care for, are concerned for, value, consider and are affectionate towards your partner, why is is that wrong, or less valuable than the kind of love which is supposed to be the only valid kind?

We are perhaps the most successful species on Earth (except for those species, like rats and dogs and cockroaches, who associate with us) and the reason is that we co-operate. And we can co-operate because we are capable of love, not romantic fluff, but something more solid: the kind of solid fellow-feeling which allows us to interact without slaughtering each other.  Men are capable of loving other men, deeply, even if they are "straight".  Even if they are porn actors.

[I talked about this before, here and here]

I loves ya

Looks like pure sex, doesn't it?  But look at the way they are gazing at each other.  The connection is more than physical.

Colby Keller (and friend)

I've talked about oxytocin before.  It's a hormone released during sex which makes you trust and love your partner. Observe the expressions on the faces of Colby Keller and his partner.  They may be in a studio, being filmed, and "acting" but there is a connection between these two.

There's nothing wrong with casual sex.   But if you combine it with affection (we have too few words in English to describe all the different kinds of love, but affection is a kind of love) then it comes close to the divine.

Love one another as I have loved you.

This was a new commandment (entolh) given specifically and deliberately to the apostles by Jesus.

It is love (sexual love as well as all the other kinds) which makes the agonies of life endurable.


From all blindness of heart; from pride, vain-glory, and hypocrisy; from envy, hatred, and malice, and all uncharitableness, Good Lord, deliver us.

Of course, immediately after, The Book of Common Prayer also says:

From all inordinate and sinful affections; and from all the deceits of the world, the flesh, and the devil, Good Lord, deliver us.

Well, there are perhaps "sinful affections".  But there are divine affections too.  Whatever the ChrisTaliban say.

P.S. Note that Jesus himself never once mentions homosexuality, never mind condemning it, but several times calls divorce an abomination.

P.P.S.  Colby Keller as far as one can tell seems to be a nice bloke.

Old game

Jason & Keith?