Showing posts with label true love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label true love. Show all posts

Sunday, December 28, 2014

When Albert met Anne

Ann and Richard have been a couple for 40 years. They met when Ann was Albert. Now that Ann is a woman they are able to be married.


A story about gender and about the stupidity and cruelty of our laws.

When Albert met Richard, he offered to buy him a gin and tonic.

Homosexuality had been legal for almost a decade in Britain, and young men flocked to gay bars with a giddy ardour they were still reticent to display on the street.  

"You had to be careful. We had friends who were roughly treated. It still wasn't something you shouted about, because you could get derision, or worse," Ann Urch says.

Almost 40 years on, the light gleams on Ann's golden bracelets and ruby-coloured nails as she tells their remarkable story.

Their first lease on a flat (she still has the papers), migration to Australia and forays into local politics in Frankston. They settled in the bayside suburb of Mt Martha, in Melbourne.

Richard Urch, a nurse at Frankston Hospital, sits on the sofa opposite. He fills in the gaps in her tale, sometimes takes the lead.

For the first 34 years their relationship, Ann was Albert.

A tall, balding man with a deep Mancunian accent, Albert Knowles was a Frankston councillor and mayor in the mid-1980s, skilled in manufacturing and management, one half of a gay couple.

But Albert was also someone who - for as long as he could remember - had a deep conviction his gender did not match his body and he was a woman, a condition known as gender dysphoria.

As Albert grew older this gnawed at him and he became depressed. But he did not feel ready to tell Richard.

Read the rest here.

Friday, December 5, 2014

Turgid

I haven't written for so long that when I began writing again a couple of days ago, I found that I had lost the knack.  What I wrote was turgid and stagy.  And whereas I had been able to write easily and fluently before, now it was an effort to produce even a few hundred words.

I've been finding it harder and harder to write ever since the whole Henrik dėbâcle.  I used to believe that even though there were some bastards out there, fundamentally mankind was good, and that men could love and cherish each other selflessly.  And now I don't.

Ah well, I'll try again today.  Though to be sure, I am so tired I often fall asleep on the train.


Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Wilde Oats Issue 14



The latest issue of Wilde Oats is out.  It's a retrospective issue -- the best of Wilde Oats in the nearly 5 years it's been going.  I'm very pleased to tell you that one of my own tales is there.  It's called Sarie Marais, and it's about a man who goes climbing by himself in winter in the Groot Drakenstein mountains east of Cape Town.  And about how a mysterious stranger saves him from dying in the snow and cloud of a July snowstorm.  And how he finds a good man to love.

 You can read Wilde Oats here