Tom of Finland

Depictor of the archetypal hypermasculine gay. There's room for him as well as "vulnerable goslings" (to quote Ethan Mordden). Gay is a broad church, one might even say a "catholic" church. ("Catholic" comes from the Ancient Greek, kat-holos, which means across the whole, i.e., everywhere)  Uniforms, leather, muscles, tight military pants ... it's all there.  Some straights think we long for effeminate men, men who are substitutes (in their eyes) for women.  No:  we are much broader and more catholic than that.  We love men, from the hypermasculine through the ordinary bloke on to the femme (like Luigi in Majorca Flats).  Odd, isn't it, that we should be so catholic, no?

If I die -- how to raise my son

This woman is raising an effeminate son.  Instead of trying to force him to pretend to be like other little boys, she's let him be what he is.

This post (via Queerty) talks about what would happen were she to die, and how she'd like her husband to bring the boy up

Moving and insightful:

Your job is to love him, not change him. Support him. Let him know that you are there unconditionally.

Indeed.  Love one another as I have loved you.  That's all there is, folks.  Death, failure, loss, sorrow, loneliness; all these can be helped if only we loved each other like this mother loves her son.  Unconditionally.