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Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Queer but not Gay

An interesting distinction.  Ugly Betty actor,  Michael Urie, says he's queer but not gay:


“I’ve been in a relationship for a while now, and if you just met the two of us together we’d be ‘gay,’ ” he explains. “But that somehow means anything that happened before didn’t count—and I don’t feel that way. I know that some people feel that way. They were with women, but it always felt wrong. But it didn’t for me. It felt right at the time. It didn’t work out, but it also didn’t work out with other men—many times. That’s why ‘gay’ never seemed right.”

“Certainly there was a point where I was like, I don’t know how long Ugly Betty is going to last and how well it’s going to do, and I might want some real anonymity if it ends quickly. I was also never one to seek out publicity or attention, and I basically didn’t want to be labeled. That kind of attention could turn ugly. I guess if I wasn’t in a relationship with a man and I tried to tell people I was queer, it would appear to be a lie or a cop-out—à la college 10 years ago, when people believed in that notion of ‘bi now, gay later.’ But things are different now. I’m much more comfortable, and I’m in a relationship now. I’m not as worried about a future for myself.”  

An interesting perspective, one I've often commented on: 

and of course, all my novels -- Footy, for example.


One day it really, really won't matter whether you're with a man or a woman, and the labels will cease to mean anything, because tastes will no longer be forced into cast-iron boxes.

Meantime, do you think it would be too gay of me to say he's gorgeous, and cute as?

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

He's *droooool*!!!!